The Truth About the Pros of Being in Your 30's

I decided to look up "Life in your thirties" to see what popped up. I got a few websites. One had a list of 27 aspects that are underrated. I decided that that meant that they aren't as well talked about as say, your life gets better in your thirties than it was in your twenties. Which I say is overrated as not everyone experiences this. I don't think I will comment on EVERYTHING on the 27 list. So I think I'll minimize it to ten.

1. You don't put up with other peoples BS anymore.

Well, I think it depends on the type of BS you are talking about. Anything that is more like high school drama is out of the question though if you have kids close to being a teen themselves you wont get away from it for very long. Not dealing with as much BS also means your circle of friends gets smaller. Mine is fairly small and I talk to more of my old friends from before my thirties. Now, as for the kind of BS you do put up with but in a more mature manner is the kind that you can't escape. The kind only family can give. Yes, you can avoid what you don't want to deal with. Like my step mothers alcoholism. Which is interesting considering I am majoring in psychology and neuroscience. I'll have to deal with it eventually. I guess it's just too close for comfort. Though I will state right now it isn't something to ignore being that I am the step-daughter.

2. When something bad happens, we don't dwell like we used to.

HA! I worry more now then ever. I have to. Otherwise I wouldn't be a good mom knowing that some of the docs I come in contact with are complete idiots and I have to work my way up to 5th opinions. Now, it should say, don't sweat the small stuff like you used to. Like who has the better car, the newest watch, the latest gizmo. Though some people in their thirties have an ego and they worry about it anyway mostly because they are trying to make up for what they lacked before. Seriously, to you people who are like this, CHILL. You'll work yourself to an early grave.

3. At work YOU'RE the boss.

Not completely true some of us may not be the boss until we are in our forties. Like my Dad who is lucky enough to have been his own boss for the past fifteen years or so and he is now 54. He is an entrepreneur. I am only partially my own boss at my own job. I have a boss but he lives out of state so I am responsible for making sure I get to work on time, do the job right, and close up properly. I still have to report top someone but not on a regular basis. For the type of work I do, I don't want to imagine how long it would take to actually BE the boss. This is why I am looking to replace my work. I miss working with people. It makes the day go by faster.

4. Dating is more direct.

What?! Okay I recently ran into my ex from fourteen years ago. he is still damn attractive. He may have a kid but relationships and dating are still difficult. I think it varies person to person. I had more trouble with relationship when I was younger, yes, but it isn't easier now. If I were to become single, it'd be harder in a different matter due to the fact I have kids and have to put them first. It makes it harder because some people don't grow up for a long, long time. To my ex, you'll get there bud.

5. Your relationships are healthier.

Okay I can understand the truth to this. It's true for the most part. Mostly with old friends of which you had a falling out with. You mature with time and forget the past. You chat and support each other. You relate to each others issues. Now when it comes to personal relationships, it depends on so much more than the fact you know what you want and go for it. If you are without kids its easier to do. But no relationship is without it;s difficulties. I wont say that relationships are healthier per se but more understanding of what a good relationship is brought to the table. That's if you've learned from your mistakes. Since it's December, I can say that even Scrooge learned this late in life. His relationships were slightly more healthy when he was in his thirties than in his sixties (I'm guessing his age on this in the book).

6. The sex is better.

Yes and no. Yes because you know what you like and no what to give in return. No, because it is proven that more women in their thirties start to lose interest. At what particular age I can't be sure but I know more women in their thirties, while enjoying the sex they did have more than before, also didn't need it as often as they did in their twenties. Unless you have issues that range from mild to . . . more than mild.

7. You friends are getting married = More reasons to get drunk.

Where did this come from? I think we had more reasons to get drunk when we were younger. Most of the time now it's just to have fun and reminisce about the past and act like we used to. As for those like my step mother who have a problem, there isn't a set reason. There really isn't a reason. It's a problem. Also, not everyone gets married in their thirties. Me and my friends first got married in our twenties. Or as for one friend, when she was 18. Any of us who get married in our thirties, it is most likely not the first time. And we don't get drunk for that reason either. The last wedding I was at had no alcohol.

8. You start getting along with your parents because you don't ask them to take care of you.

Again, WTF? No that isn't the reason I get along with my mom. I get along with her because I have matured and understand why she tried to tell me certain unalienable truths about growing up when I was younger. Yes, she helps me when I NEED it not when I ask for it just so I can ask. But also, I can't live with her for too long otherwise we fight like we did when I was younger. Whoever thinks this is a pro to being in your thirties is an egotistical, self-centered dimwit who can't possibly be in their thirties. And if they are I feel bad for them. They must have been a brat as a teen. Hey, I speak honestly.

9. You make better friends.

A few but most of my best friends who are the most awesome people are the ones I grew up with not the ones I met when I got older.

10. You aren't afraid to let go of the friends who aren't good for you.

True, very true. But I did that a LONG time ago. Still, you do know who to hang with and who not to hang with. Though I have met a few people who haven't gotten that memo. They aren't bad for it. They just want friends. One recently got burned because the friend they made was too young for starters and had issues that ended up in a bad situation which they regretted. I can only tell that person, I told you so. But I love you anyway because I'll still be here for you because only good friends will forgive your mistakes and help you through.

The rest of the list from number 19 down to 27, I just laugh at. Mostly because not all of it is true. Like not caring about your fitness because you think you're more hot now than ever. Correction more people give a care about their health as they age. And more exercise because of this and they eat better.

For the rest of the list here is the link: http://www.buzzfeed.com/erinlarosa/underrated-things-about-being-in-your-30s