Having a Laugh

I need to bring myself out of the irritated mood I am in. Things for a short hour got too noisy and I was happy to have the kids go to bed while my temporary roommate went off and did his own thing and my husband played Diablo III. I have an interesting household. So, in order to bring myself out of this mood, I had two ideas: write more of my blog and write more of that novel I have been working on. Possibly both novels. I intend one to be a series as it would most capture the attention of a potential audience.

I wanted something to write about in my blog. Once more I took to Google. I found a wonderfully hilarious blog by a slightly older than me woman who writes about a variety of subjects. I love the title of her blog here on Blogger: This Mid 30's Life by Rachel of Australia. http://www.midthirtieslife.com/

Though she hasn't written much in the past year and not since this past June, I still enjoy reading her blog posts. Her blog on what it takes to keep romance alive was something worth chatting about. She gave 7 tips to her readers and I wanted to comment on them via my blog. So Rachel if you read this, I hope you enjoy.

Learning from fortune cookies. I love this advice. But also I would like to add having fun with them as well. It has been tradition of mine for well over a decade to add, "in bed" at the end of each fortune read. It makes for a good laugh. So adding that the fortune can be good advice is a good tip and makes an easy way to add a laugh.

You aren't just a parent and shouldn't call each other Dad or Mom when away from kids. Good advice. I haven't done this. Though it makes me stop and think of how many people actually do it.

Spending time together is essential. Yes, it is. I try to get time in whenever I can. I like it best outside of the home and when the kids are asleep with the sitter in another room watching television. We don't get the chance to do it much and it wouldn't be easy to just book a vacation. For one we aren't terribly rich and two I am the most picky person ever since I have three great challenges for kids: A very smart first born who loves to help out with everything and play games A LOT; a special needs child; and a over active three year old that has demands that he feels should be met NOW. It's not easy balancing all three.

Let the housework go. I badly need mine done. If I don't I go nuts because I can't stand seeing something on the floor or I can't stand not being able to find something or that something is in the way. If I had it more organized like my slightly OCD mother I don't think I would feel this way and letting it go just a bit wouldn't be so hard. But I will say that my house is not as bad as some parents I know. As for how immaculately clean a house can get with kids, yes Rachel, how do they do it? They must be OCD like my Mom. Though I kind of don't mind how my Mom is about it. She isn't paranoid about it at all but she does get upset if it isn't done right the first time or if you absent-mindedly forget. Other than that I think she is quite tolerable in comparison. But I will say a man who does cleaning around the house is very attractive and it is very true that men who do so get more out of it in the end.

Be nice. Hmm, that is a toughy. Especially when it has seemed that pent up frustration has surfaced because one or both of you has neglected to express themselves in a healthy manner. I know this from experience.

Talk. I think this is the most continuously offered advice about relationships out there and think it should be on top with being nice coming second. I have had to regularly remind my husband of this. Because you never know when something might be exceptionally hard to talk about and you have to not only talk you have to listen. And be nice about it. It's a delicate balance between the three.

Rachel I enjoyed coming upon your blog and hope that you return soon. I could definitely find myself chatting with you if we were closer. You are very laid back and easy going from what I have read in your blogs thus far.